It’s bad Karma to celebrate someone’s firing. It’s not poetic justice so we’re not having a party because of the recent sexual abuse and harassment firings. We’ll just raise a glass to “It’s about time”.
Photo:Evan Agostini:AP Former Today Show hosts Matt Lauer & Ann Curry
Why is everybody acting shocked about accusations and charges of sexual abuse on the job? This is nothing new and if you really look at it, most of the accused men are in the media and politics. Having worked in the media most of my life, with a break to travel with a politician, I can speak with experience on both. Many men in the media think they entitled to their positions like politicians and that they are beloved by the public. Many politicians love to be on the air or interviewed for anything media.
The latest, the firing of NBC TODAY Show host Matt Lauer, has brought high heels out of the shoebox because the shock surrounding him is finally giving me hot flashes. I get hot flashes because everybody is so shocked. That’s when I sit down, put on the high heels and vent to cool off.
Charges against Bill Cosby were not surprising either. High Heels published High Heels published several blogs about Bill Cosby including a Wessays blog entitled: “Cosby”.
Charges against Charlie Rose and the high paid clowns at FOX were not surprising. Watching any of these guys for the past one thousand years on TV, it was obvious they thought they were GOD and probably also believed they would win an election if they ran. I often watched all of them and wondered when they would leave. “Women who look that old would never keep their jobs this long”. I worked with Charlie Rose. Listening to Gayle King and Norah O’Donnell lift him to a gold pedestal was kind of nauseating, but they had to do it. Charlie Rose read his own press, hourly. Charlie Rose is mean and he truly believes he is the best interviewer to ever hit the face of earth.
Forget about Harvey Weinstein. I was a little girl, 8,000 years ago when I first became aware of the “casting couch”. So please, if you are surprised about any of this, stand up and make a fool of yourself.
The firing of Matt Lauer made me think immediately of departed Today Show anchor, Ann Curry. He was never accused (back then) of sexually harassing her but it was known that the two did not get along. Ann might have been misplaced in some of the roles they assigned her, but her abrupt dismissal never showed sadness on Lauer’s face. Besides, harassment doesn’t have to be blatant words or touching or grabbing. Harassment can start with stress, pressure, demotion, yelling on the job or negativity from above in an attempt to make an underling submit….to whatever.
I am retired today because a (still working) man was abusive to me, subsequently demoting me for not breaking down. One of my colleagues said to me at the time: “You are so…….unflappable.” I didn’t know what he meant at the time but it was apparent the abuse was noticed by others. I finally quit to remain sane and alive. He knows who he is. The abuse is everywhere.
What’s sad about this is that all it took was one high profile woman to start the process of women coming forward. Bill Cosby had a lot of accusers over the years, but none were as high profile as actress/activist Ashley Judd.
Most of the accusers, whether in politics or the media, are women who were seeking a higher position, an entertainment part or in some cases the women just wanted to remain glued to the anchor chair. They thought or it was known that they had to either be quiet or succumb or both. No one listened to them because they were not rich and famous. Ashley Judd didn’t need anything from Harvey Weinstein. She had nothing to lose. This is what makes women love her power.
People have asked why? Why were there so many women? Take a quick tour through the media and politics with me, since the office operations of both are quite similar. The rules of the game are also in order of importance if you work in either environment:
- The elected official is KING/ The on-air man with the highest ratings is KING
- Political employees are hungry/ Starlets & entertainment assistants make little $.
- KING politician makes promises to women in certain jobs, as do media executives.
Blame ultimately falls on the viewer/listener/voter. A Bill O’Reilly, Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein or Matt Lauer cannot think they are GOD unless their followers make them think it. In this country we idolize on-air people, politicians and it’s all similar to what Democrats say about Trump supporters. No matter how bad these men may all be, the base sticks with them. In the case of the media, this is why these cocky, cavalier, pompous and relatively un-sexy men were able to sustain their perversion so long.
Racism has been going on as long as sexism in this world. Many high profile people have tried to stop it by bringing attention to the unfairness, but it never worked (for long). If it had, the world would already be a fair place to live, but not so. It’s still interesting what finally grabbed everybody’s attention enough to bring down the perpetrators. It’s also interesting that the executives that fired the perverts were mostly men. Do you think they were frightened for themselves?
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